Because of my attraction to hairier men I tend to follow more blogs that worship those body types but whenever I see more “twink” body types on said blogs they’re seen as power bottoms/sissy fags that just want huge cocks in their ass and I don’t see myself that way even though that’s my natural body type. How can i overcome this stereotype despite the fact that this type of porn has made me feel submissive/pathetic and most bears are tops not bottoms?
I love a “twink” top, the best sex I have ever had was with a smooth smaller framed guy plowing me with his beautiful dick… but much more than that I like a versatile honest man in what ever shape, size, age or color he is in. I think knowing your self, what you want and don’t want, and not letting anyone else define you is key.
As for porn, you are right, the porn companies still seem to think that smaller boyish types should bottom and guys that are just genetically hairy should be power tops. Just being bigger and having hair is seen as masculine, and feminine features are looked down upon. That’s why I tend to not watch produced porn. The bad dialog indicates how fake it is. I check out xtube for amateur porn. Finding natural men having sex the way they like it isn’t difficult. It would be nice if companies took a broader view of sex between men, but they don’t, so boycott them.
Bottoming and topping, like twink and bear are labels that aren’t really necessary in real life. It’s nice to be able to narrow down someone else’s tastes, I am on bear sites because that’s the profile type I fit and when someone messages me on those sites I know right away they are into my “type” but if when I have sex or want a relationship it’s not important. Having sex with someone that fits and clicks is better than just being an ideal type.
There are some bears that don’t like twinks, there are twinks that don’t like bears. Chat room bitch fights are pathetic. I find that it’s more about the insecurities of the individual than any broad definition. They have bought into the media ideas of those roles. I stopped buying that shit. If someone throws shade… fuck ‘em. Well actually DON’T Fuck them. Don’t give someone the satisfaction of making you feel pathetic. Why wear somebody else’s shit?
In my experience there are plenty of bear bottoms you just have to look closer. Let’s open the discussion to others…followers?